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I find dating to be somewhat parallel to playing baseball. Aside from the obvious and orderly running the bases comparison, I like to implement what I call the "three strikes and you're out" rule. Getting to know somebody is a process. This process begins as flirtation and ends, hopefully, with something promising and long-term. My mother always reminds me, in reference to the guys that I date, that men don't just wake up one morning and start treating you the way you deserve to be treated. Much like any relationship, the honeymoon period is exactly that - it's a period; a timeframe at the beginning of a courtship at which each party acts at their peak behavior. If he's not treating you as a priority when you first meet, there's no way in hell his actions will change later on in your relationship. That's... a promise.
I find dating to be somewhat parallel to playing baseball. Aside from the obvious and orderly running the bases comparison, I like to implement what I call the "three strikes and you're out" rule. Getting to know somebody is a process. This process begins as flirtation and ends, hopefully, with something promising and long-term. My mother always reminds me, in reference to the guys that I date, that men don't just wake up one morning and start treating you the way you deserve to be treated. Much like any relationship, the honeymoon period is exactly that - it's a period; a timeframe at the beginning of a courtship at which each party acts at their peak behavior. If he's not treating you as a priority when you first meet, there's no way in hell his actions will change later on in your relationship. That's... a promise.
A guy who claims he wants to spend time with you and fails to make that happen, will most likely not be a promising prospect. If you can recall back to one of my earliest articles on relationships, The Half Boyfriend, you will remember that I preached the simplicity of dating from a guy's perspective. If he wants to spend time with you, he will do what it takes to make that happen (even if it means forgoing a night out with the guys...especially when he's first trying to get to know you). Foul ball. I am a firm believer in chances, because everyone's allowed a walk or two. Every time he cops out, or fails to pick up the reigns on our plans, I call a strike on the player. Three, and he's done. Remember that while dating should be by no means a restricting, formulaic ball and chain, it still requires effort on your part, and his. If that effort is not there, it never will be. If you find yourself waiting around one too many weekends for a cute guy to make his move, you should probably put the bat down and call that game quits.
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Dating is like baseball---that's tooo funny!!! Grrreat post and lovin' your varsity jacket! Looks like Isabel Marant Spring 2011!!!!
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haha greta post, it is totally true!
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