Dating Tip #7: How to Handle a Guy (Appropriately).

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Let's face it, we don't all know how to act when we meet a new guy that we like, especially if we've been out of the dating game for awhile. I, too, am one of those girls who compensate by talking too much and giggling too often, and sometimes I wonder what the hell I'm saying as the gibberish comes pouring out of my mouth: Did I really say that? He will never text me back now. Does that mean our date is off this weekend? To avoid these types of thoughts, I've come up with a few basic rules that every girl should take heed when talking to the new guy.

Of course, many of our insecurities pertaining to him thinking we're total weirdos are really in our head. As girls, we overanalyze every move we make, and dissect every detail of our conversation with him. However, there are a few important tactics to keep in mind when you're spitting girl game.

He's actually never getting sick of your smile.

There's almost nothing that boosts his confidence more than when you smile at him. Smiling and giggling in response to what he's telling you, or what ridiculous joke he's dropping, will never get old to him. Even the girls with the Holly Madison chuckles and hyena-pitched belly laughs reassure him that you're picking up what he's putting down. Unless he was never really all that into you in the first place, your excessive giggling probably will not faze him.

It doesn't matter if you have unlimited text messaging.

You CANNOT text him like you did your ex.

The second a girl gets the green light (and by green light, I mean the hint that he likes her), his number becomes like her personal American Idol call-in hotline: No holds barred with the text messages. Girls, get unused to texting someone like he's your childhood teddy bear. There's almost nothing creepier (and stage-5 clingier) than a chick who doesn't know her limits at the beginning.

Don't add his friends on Facebook.

It's no secret that after meeting a guy a few times, we know information including who his best friends are and who his recent hook ups are. Also, the serious Facebook stalkers can probably riddle back a good portion of his Facebook wall. Suspicious dates and comments stick out, too. All of this knowledge, no matter how mysterious, should never be casually dropped in conversation with the new guy. The clumsy girls will out-and-out ask about his social networking relations, while the sneakier broads will subtly and casually weave her questions in, as if it's really no big deal. If you're just talking to the guy, you don't want to scare him (or his friends) with the Facebook requests. I've known girls who have actually befriended a guy's entire clique just by virtue of knowing their affiliation. Um, no.

He won't be intimidated by your aggression. Actually, he'll probably love it.

The one big misconception about dating is the fact that as girls, we have to be the pursued party. This is true to an extent, but just to an extent. Guys like feeling as though they are the pursuers, but they are also looking for the attraction to be not only mutual, but welcomed and reciprocated. Contacting him on occasion, or striking up a conversation when he least expects it, making the weekend's plans or teaching him something he didn't know before, is aggressive, but sexy (ask him, I swear). Don't be afraid to play the upper hand.