Not to put a huge damper on everyone's Valentine weeks, but lately I've gotten a slew of questions regarding the proper etiquette while dealing with a break-up that I feel would be appropriate to address (Did you know? The number of breakups that occur around February 14th are astonishingly high).
Most of us girls deal with a breakup by consulting our girlfriends. We all sit semi-circle on our beds, while Sharon tells us how we deserve so much better than Tod, anyway, and Jackie rambles on and on about the time Mike stood us up four years ago (pre-relationship, mind you) and insists it was a sign way back then. Kate tells us about all the opportunities we have now that we're single, and Anna's already got our next blind-date jotted down in her organizer. His name... is Jesse. Sexy, right?
{ Did you know these little fun facts? According to YourTango.com, 74% of women think about their exes too much (64% men). 76% of women have looked up an ex on the internet (70% men) and most relevant, 50% of women look at their exes' Facebook pages too often (40% of men). This brings me to the next point: How the F%$& can we move on when we have such easy access to our ex's personal information? If you're freshly broken up, the easiest way to go about it is to cut him off cold turkey, and remove yourself from being able to see his social networking sites }
Here's the thing (and guys, it kind of applies to you, too. But only kind of): When a dim little lightbulb goes off in Holly's head, and she whips out this cute little break-up slogan in the attempt to inform us of the greatest idea ever: "The best way to get over somebody, is to get under someone new," she's completely doing us a disservice. Most girls (and guys) believe what will make them feel better about their breakups will undoubtedly be a hot and steamy tryst with a bangin' one-nighter. And while this may indeed elevate our egos for a hot minute, it ultimately just makes us feel like shit. Like utter and complete shit. Instantaneously, irrelevant little characteristics about our rebound hook ups remind us of our exes. Their hair, their cologne, that thing he said to you right before... Even if you can't find something specific about this stranger, the simple fact that you're lying next to somebody different, gets you thinking about your ex. And the break up. In the spirit of Valentine's Day, do yourself a favor: If you're newly single, spend your night with some other like-minded friends: away from the Internet, and away from any and all one-night mistakes.
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