Say Yes to the Ex?

If I had a penny for the number of on-again, off-again relationships that I've been privy to, or involved in, I'd be one wealthy woman. The question, is why do we always return to our exes? And is returning back to our ex a good idea? There is no one right answer to whether or not you belong in your on-again, off-again. It's just a decision you have to make based on a number of factors, I suppose. Some of my girlfriends firmly believe that "an ex is an example" of someone you should never be with again. They're an ex for a reason. Extinct. Extinguished. Gone. Others believe in fate, in that gut feeling. You keep returning to him because you just know that he's the right one. Whether your break up was messy, or just a mutual parting, some girls feel that it's best to leave the past... in the past. Others, on the other hand, keep returning to their exes. Why?

I've been a longstanding culprit of always returning to my ex, even if I've been in other meaningful relationships between. While I won't divulge my personal reasons for doing so, I know that common reasons for falling back on an ex include the overall comfort level, sex life, and most importantly, the feelings that just naturally grow and settle over time. Your decision to reunite with your ex should logically (ugh... that was hard for me to say) be based on whether or not you believe in your heart that he (or she) is the best match for you; not to be determined by the number of arguments you get into (every couple argues) but by the types of fights you get into. Two people with different core values and beliefs makes for a rocky relationship, even if both parties' feelings are in it to win it. Sometimes, determining whether or not your ex should jump ship to your life in the present, should be left to your logical gut. Are you a potential match made in heaven? Or will your innate differences ultimately tear you apart? 

Factors to consider that should not deter you from seeing your ex again include your different taste in material interests like music, television, social plan preferences. Factors that should deter you from seeing your ex? Any form of abuse and longstanding jealousy and insecurity issues. See the difference? Some qualities will just never change (although women tend to believe we can wish away the bad qualities), and it's up to you to determine whether or not those factors are the makers or the breakers of your relationship.