Mr. Long Distance.

The most difficult aspect of maintaining a relationship with your boyfriend is being able to communicate effectively, and let me tell you, such a simple concept is actually quite challenging for most people. Now, imagine that your boyfriend lives miles and miles away. This task becomes, logically, leaps and bounds more difficult. How are you supposed to keep tabs on each other when they're not at your beck and call, because they can't be? This is a reality a significant number of couples have to face.

Isn't it funny? Most single girls out on the town will pride themselves on their class and discretion. She's usually not handing her phone number out to every sleezeball that picks up her bar tab, nor is she even contemplating talking over drinks with a guy who doesn't look like he's stepped out of a J.Crew catalogue. Single guys? They're dogs, panting for a bone, any kind of bone, to be thrown their way. When these two people meet and form a relationship, the tables take a drastic turn. When a girl becomes comfortable with her boyfriend, she feels a bit more at liberty to let loose her flirtatious side. After all, she's taken. Her relationship status forms this invisible cloak of naivete. Her boyfriend, who once scoured the bars for a pretty giggle, is now struggling with the idea that some single dog out there is trying to scoop up his bone.

You don't necessarily have to be in a long distance relationship to feel the burn of jealousy, but being able to trust your girlfriend does become an infinitely more crucial part of what makes you work as a couple. Similar to being out on the road, you may not be able to rely on the other drivers to keep you safe, but you should be able to depend on the people in your car. Guys - as long as you have faith that your girlfriend is a keeper, pay no mind to the others around you. Keep a cautious eye, of course, but actively involve yourself with what's going on in your Corvette and enjoy the ride.


10 comments:

  1. Long distance is rough, no matter which way you slice it. Girls are probably even more guilty of being crazy and unable to communicate, but in my opinion, its warranted sometimes. Guys sometimes pull an out-of-sight, out-of-mind, which can be scary for a girl.

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  2. Every couple deals with their own (pardon my French) shit, so this is just a general tip for guys who worry about their pretty girlfriends out and about, out of sight. People in general are terrible communicators in relationships: Girls use their body language as opposed to their words (which gets the point across as well as someone speaking Chinese to a French person) and guys just don't use any form of communication. The combination in a relationship could be lethal, depending on just how bad the couple really is. That's why using words is key, in a long (or short) distance relationship.

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  3. I am in a long distance relationship and jealousy does come up every once in a while. Its normal for guys and girls to feel jealous of their partner, especially if he or she is attractive. Trust is the most important thing. One thing I would recommend for guys or girls out there, make sure whatever you decide, do what makes you happy. Personally, I am in love with my girlfirend and am very lucky to be in a healthy long distance relationship at the moment. I do love her, she makes me so happy and I could never begin to think of another woman, but most importantly, I trust her.


    ps I love the other drivers on the road simile. Maybe write a column on when flirting goes too far....?

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  4. I hate long distance relationships. They don't work out for me. Jealousy, not knowing what your guy is doing...I hate not knowing what's going on lol!!!

    jos xx

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  5. great post, trust is definitely the basis to all relationships :)


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  8. I really enjoyed this post. Communication and trust are definitely key to a successful relationship.

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