Honestly.

I am a fantastic liar. I haven't always been fantastic, but I've always been a liar, and the one constant that's remained, whether or not I've been able to pull off the grand master of schemes, or have stupidly been caught after a couple hours: the repercussions of lying are never pretty. Remember, guys, if you are prepared to lie, then you must also prepare to be caught. Because no matter how swift you are, in time, the truth reveals itself.

The number one mistake that couples make {specifically, the guy equation of the couple} is lying, and that in turn is the number one reason why I've had to deal with a handful of crying girls on my shoulder. When it comes down to it, he was caught in a lie. What do men lie most about? Cheating.

And why should you tell your girlfriend the truth? She'd break up with you. It was a mistake. It will never happen again, anyway. Right?

Errrrr, maybe not. Here's the logic: You cheat, you lie, your dilemma is pushed under the rug, and thank God, because it was a mistake and it won't happen again. That's your instinct. But it kind of feels good being so successful, doesn't it? Doesn't it feel good that you did something you weren't supposed to and got away with it? If you could do it once with no penalty, what's to stop you from doing it again?

That's the thing about liars. One lie feels so good, it has the potential to turn into another. And another. And another. Until, shit hits the fan. And it will. Lying is Bad News Bears. So what do you do: You tell her. Spare her the details. As a matter of fact, lucky you, depending on what you've done you can spare her some of the truth. She just needs to know that you did something wrong. Is there a potential your relationship is through? Of course. But no one ever said that a bad deed would go unpunished, did they? However, if your girlfriend really loves you, she may ultimately realize that what you shared with her was effective communication.

For those of you who, at this point, think I'm a terrible person for now admitting to being this world class liar, I'll have you know that over the years, when it comes to relationships, I've learned to be as honest with myself, and my boyfriends as possible. Honesty is sincerely, the best policy.

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